To be worthy of love | Tebuireng Online

Should a woman become a beautiful face, you can only match? This question might sound trivial to some people. But for women, especially those who grow in the shadows of social beauty standards, this question can be a source of gaping wounds. From childhood, women have been crammed with an understanding that her value is on her face. That the more beautiful the face, the greater the chance to be loved, proposed, and finally get a mate.

In fact, true love does not recognize the size of the cheeks, nose shape, or skin color. But unfortunately, our society is still too busy measuring love with physical criteria. As if a match will only come to those who meet the “visual requirements” determined by the world: white skin, slim body, tall slender, and a tapering face with a celebrity standard.

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As a result, many women who grow with fear, fear is not pretty enough, fear is not quite interesting, afraid of being abandoned just because it does not appear perfect every time. We can see for ourselves how the cosmetics and beauty clinic industries continue to grow. Not because women are too shallow, but because the world is too hard in those who do not meet the standards.

Many women spend time, energy, and money just to make themselves “worthy of love”. They form the body, whiten the skin, making all faces to get validation from outside: that they deserve a partner. This is not their fault. This is the effect of a world that seems to give a message that love only belongs to beautiful.

Yet if we want to be honest, do sincere love really requires physical beauty as the main requirement? Many true stories prove that beautiful faces do not guarantee happiness in relationships. Some are married to a handsome man and a beautiful woman, but the household is full of conflict. There are also those who live simple, even far from physical ideal, but lasting and love each other for life.

Love, true, is about taste. About comfort, loyalty, communication, and mutual respect. And that cannot be measured from the shape of the face or weight. But still, the reality outside often says the opposite.

Just look at social media. Viral wedding posts are usually because “the bride is very beautiful” or “the guy is very handsome, like an artist”. Rarely there are those who lift stories about their love struggle, loyalty that have been built for years, or good traits that are owned. Again, physically the main spotlight. As if love is only appropriate for those who look beautiful on the camera.

In fact, not a few women who are openly advised by their environment: “That’s why grooming can quickly get a match.” “Treatment, so as not less competitive with other girls.” Instead of teaching women to improve their character, improve their quality, or broaden their horizons, they are even encouraged to focus on just appearance.

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It’s sad when a woman’s value is only seen from the mirror, not from within her. As if love is blind to kindness, and only see face makeup.

And of all this, the most alarming is: women begin to believe that they must be beautiful in order to get love. They feel they are not worthy of being loved if they are not in accordance with general beautiful standards. They feel their soul mate is delayed because their bodies are not slim, their skin is not smooth, or because they don’t wear makeup.

This is a very detrimental social trap. Because love is not a beauty competition. And a mate is not a gift for those who win in a self -makeup competition. A match is destiny, who comes at the right time, to the right person, for reasons that may not be predicted by human reason.

We must start freeing women from this pressure. Women don’t have to be beautiful to be loved. What needs to be the best version of himself is not for others, but for himself. Because women who love themselves, who believe in their abilities, and who are sure that they deserve to get sincere love, far more charming than just a beautiful face.

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We need to educate our daughters that their grades are not determined by likes on Instagram, or comments about the face in Tiktok. We need to teach that true love never see physical as the main condition. We need to build a world that can respect women not because of beautiful, but because of their character and courage.

So, should women be beautiful, just get a match? The answer: No.

Because a match is not about beautiful or not beautiful. But about who is able to accept, understand, and love us unconditionally. And true love, will never come because of the face, but because of the heart.

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Writer: trough
Editor: Rara Zaryry